Tuesday, November 18, 2014

To Ignore or To Be Ignored!

"People, who ignore you, until it suits them to talk to you, are not worthy of your friendship or your time."

So I saw a meme on Facebook and both my friend and I decided this would be a great blog topic. 

Have you ever become so annoyed with being ignored that you feel helpless at getting the conclusion/solution you need?

I will tackle relationships then family, friends/peers, then God.

But first starting with worthiness or worthlessness between you and the individual you are reaching out to. Notice I said individual, this part has nothing to do with God (separate entity, separate paragraph). As for everyone else the disrespect must stop. Do we need to go back to the Golden rule? Treat others how you want to be treated. I have already checked myself. We all have times when someone is reaching out to us and we refuse to respond.
There are a few sides to this story, ignoring definitely shows a level of dislike and carelessness. Sometimes it’s on purpose and other times it is not.


This game we play, at the beginning I will say when you experience someone real and ready. The game you crave me and I crave you and we‘re going to make it work. Crave means love in my blog, thanks! But when you are playing the game… You call, I’ll call; you text, ill text; like my picture, like your picture and so on the tit for tat baby step level. The big one, you’re busy, I’m busy too. Just know this game ends poorly, no one wins. An Infatuation or possible puppy love or you know you’re too grown for that, stage.  

The reality of being ignored!

The individual has zero time for games, they only want to work on a business level (and you want more, they don’t or at the least, not at this point in their life), they felt betrayed or manipulated; they caught you in a lie. You name it there are a numerous of reasons you do not get responses or the ones you were looking for. Feel free to comment on a time any of this happened to you. The big one their priority does not include you and yes they were busy.

What you allow to happen to you happens rather sadly or gratefully.  

Still in relationships, there are some really brave people that run things and can walk in a room and turn it upside down. Then there are people that cannot maneuver as great and don’t really have the interest to do so. Then there are persons who know when to be a leader and know when to take the back seat and then there are people who haven’t got a clue.

It is ultimately up to you how you deal with a person when entering a relationship, the best and worst get played, heart broken, loved fully and truthfully, learn lessons, repeat mistakes. But ultimately communication is what’s important. So when you ignore someone it that copping out? You know taking the easy way out? Or if you get ignored how badly does it hurt? Persons want attention.
Don’t base anything on technology, “my phone was tripping” or “I did reply”. Unless you know the person…technology will mess everything up.

Up NEXT Family!

When you are ignored by your family, circumstance plays a huge part, you all may not get along or people do not have time for the dramatics. They no longer want to gossip and if that is all you have to offer you need to find a new job (remember this is if you get ignored by family). Somebody did something, they don’t trust you like they used to or they cannot afford to assist you in your life at that current time so you will be on the ignore list. The great part about family, you see each other at a reunion and it’s like old times or the older generation won’t have it with the younger generation and you have to fix any and all disconnect within the family. I love when persons say at the end of the day family is what you got, it doesn't necessarily have to deal with blood.

Friends and peers!

A little lighter and simpler, if you are just peers no ownership, no involvement, feel free to ignore (on a need to basis only), no one owes anyone anything. But if you are friends or even best friends, put on gloves and/or take off earrings (lol that is a joke for all the loyal friendships)! But seriously you should not ignore your friends. Simple! Your friendship if done healthy is based on a kindness that’s mutual and your mission if you should choose it is to be there. Whatever that may mean, not saying there won’t be fall outs of extended periods of time you may not speak to each other, but friendships are work and if they are worth it, you won’t ignore a buddy.   

So with that, if someone is ignoring you, let it go.

Here we go! Last but surely not least God!

Because I won’t do what God would say about you and His relationship justice, I pray that God shows you who He is in your life. I pray He comforts you during a time when you feel alone or lonely because in actuality you won’t ever be alone. I appreciate the saying, “the teacher is quiet while students are taking a test”, but I also understand that God is always speaking. So work with that for now.

People are people, we have our lives to protect, no worries right? We ignore each other, annoy and use, disturb and are rude to one another. Are we born with these or taught? Cheers!  

Feel free to comment below.


  1. Now when it comes to friends, when issues arise, and they prove to be detrimental to your peace and your very life....LET THEM Go!!!! WALK AWAY!!! Especially if you have talked about your differences, and have agreed on a change taking place and then the drama persist, that means the situation hasn't been rectified. That means the friendship has been compromised, dissolved, deleted etc. Which means the people involved must walk away in different directions. Everyone breathes, be mindful not to get verbally ugly, and just remember the good times spent hanging out together.

  2. True. Lots of wise points. Thanks for sharing!