"People, who ignore you, until it suits them to talk to you,
are not worthy of your friendship or your time."
So I saw a meme on Facebook and both my friend and I decided
this would be a great blog topic.
Have you ever become so annoyed with being
ignored that you feel helpless at getting the conclusion/solution you need?
I will tackle relationships then family, friends/peers, then
God.
But first starting with worthiness or worthlessness between
you and the individual you are reaching out to. Notice I said individual, this
part has nothing to do with God (separate entity, separate paragraph). As for
everyone else the disrespect must stop. Do we need to go back to the Golden
rule? Treat others how you want to be treated. I have already checked myself.
We all have times when someone is reaching out to us and we refuse to respond.
There are a few sides to this story, ignoring definitely shows
a level of dislike and carelessness. Sometimes it’s on purpose and other times
it is not.
Relationships!
This game we play, at the beginning I will say when you experience
someone real and ready. The game you crave me and I crave you and we‘re going
to make it work. Crave means love in my blog, thanks! But when you are playing the
game… You call, I’ll call; you text, ill text; like my picture, like your
picture and so on the tit for tat baby step level. The big one, you’re busy, I’m
busy too. Just know this game ends poorly, no one wins. An Infatuation or
possible puppy love or you know you’re too grown for that, stage.
The reality of being ignored!
The individual has zero time for games, they only want to
work on a business level (and you want more, they don’t or at the least, not at
this point in their life), they felt betrayed or manipulated; they caught you
in a lie. You name it there are a numerous of reasons you do not get responses
or the ones you were looking for. Feel free to comment on a time any of this
happened to you. The big one their priority does not include you and yes they
were busy.
What you allow to happen to you happens rather sadly or gratefully.
Still in relationships, there are some really brave people
that run things and can walk in a room and turn it upside down. Then there are
people that cannot maneuver as great and don’t really have the interest to do so.
Then there are persons who know when to be a leader and know when to take the
back seat and then there are people who haven’t got a clue.
It is ultimately up to you how you deal with a person when
entering a relationship, the best and worst get played, heart broken, loved
fully and truthfully, learn lessons, repeat mistakes. But ultimately
communication is what’s important. So when you ignore someone it that copping
out? You know taking the easy way out? Or if you get ignored how badly does it
hurt? Persons want attention.
Don’t base anything on technology, “my phone was tripping”
or “I did reply”. Unless you know the person…technology will mess everything
up.
Up NEXT Family!
When you are ignored by your family, circumstance plays a
huge part, you all may not get along or people do not have time for the
dramatics. They no longer want to gossip and if that is all you have to offer
you need to find a new job (remember this is if you get ignored by family). Somebody
did something, they don’t trust you like they used to or they cannot afford to
assist you in your life at that current time so you will be on the ignore list.
The great part about family, you see each other at a reunion and it’s like old
times or the older generation won’t have it with the younger generation and you
have to fix any and all disconnect within the family. I love when persons say
at the end of the day family is what you got, it doesn't necessarily have to
deal with blood.
Friends and peers!
A little lighter and simpler, if you are just peers no ownership,
no involvement, feel free to ignore (on a need to basis only), no one owes
anyone anything. But if you are friends or even best friends, put on gloves and/or
take off earrings (lol that is a joke for all the loyal friendships)! But
seriously you should not ignore your friends. Simple! Your friendship if done
healthy is based on a kindness that’s mutual and your mission if you should
choose it is to be there. Whatever that may mean, not saying there won’t be
fall outs of extended periods of time you may not speak to each other, but friendships
are work and if they are worth it, you won’t ignore a buddy.
So with that, if someone is ignoring you, let it go.
Here we go! Last but surely not least God!
Because I won’t do what God would say about you and His relationship
justice, I pray that God shows you who He is in your life. I pray He comforts
you during a time when you feel alone or lonely because in actuality you won’t
ever be alone. I appreciate the saying, “the teacher is quiet while students
are taking a test”, but I also understand that God is always speaking. So work
with that for now.
People are people, we have our lives to protect, no worries right?
We ignore each other, annoy and use, disturb and are rude to one another. Are we
born with these or taught? Cheers!
Feel free to comment below.
